The struggle of an opposition is that it feels like something is restricting you, or trying to get you – something is getting in the way of what you are wanting to accomplish.
Right now it’s an ideal. Maybe an obsession with it. Which doesn’t leave much room for life to show up and do its thing. When you consistently negotiate a situation and try to force it into a certain shape, you aren’t allowing it room to breathe – to live.
Any time we try to contort our experiences, try to make them different than what they are actually showing up as, we are arguing with life and what it has to teach us. This causes us much suffering – more than we need to experience.
Aries is the archetype of the warrior. Where there is Aries there is a sword ready to be yielded, to cut away what attempts to sever its life force. It is not concerned with societal pleasantries – it’s focused on maintaining the courage to use a sword, in a world that normalizes the belief that everything must feel a certain way. There is a pathologization of anger, and in turn a bypassing of what it has to teach us about ourselves and our lives. This is integrated into the human psyche in utero and onward. We are taught to abandon truth from conception onward.
A lack of ability to tolerate our own anger leads to attempting to squash it – and others – in favor of idealized visions of how things need to look and feel. Particularly in relationships. It’s normal to feel angry when someone harms us – abuse should incite a strong feeling. If it doesn’t, it means we’re dissociated, we’re cut off from the Truth of an experience. Which isn’t bad, it just means we have deep healing to do.
We castrate the life out of every event or experience that arises within us begging to be witnessed, not to be capitulated via violent outburst upon ourselves or another, but compelling assertive acts of sword yielding via the proclamation, “Enough now – that’s enough!” and moving onward in a new way of acting upon life – in the way only a courageous warrior could.
The record is skipping. Conflict resolution is not a viable option if it requires sacrificing what has True value – what really matters to you, from the depths of your spirit. There will always be a battle going on within if you don’t create a handshake with the part of you that needs to take action on something, more than it needs to tie a bow around how you think things need to look or feel.
Having a positive relationship with yourself and your life must have a place at the table of life. Idealize that. This is the battle call. This is the trumpet on the sidelines of the story unfolding, compelling us to charge ahead. Not in violent aperture, but with courage and loyalty to what matters through the lens of spirit.
Non violent communication does not exist when underneath the gauze of pleasantries and bliss-ed out eye balls is the history of your ancestral lineage, fueling a field of anger that wants to overpower, dominate, control – to appropriate another human – this must be tamed. This must be witnessed for what it is. It’s not diplomacy if it’s only serving the way you want to feel.
You are called upon to learn the importance of a sword, and how to use it in loyalty to your potential. This theme will funnel down into some area of life. Not as a means to directly cause harm, but so that you can become more real.
What gets in the way of you getting along with yourself? Start there.
Aries full moon – Sept 29, 2023 @ 2:57 AM PST