What you have an aversion to, you must move towards.
You must understand the aversion as an energy that is to be integrated into your life and being in some way.
We will focus on money here, because it is something you are very focused on.
If you feel that it is bad to spend money, you must greet the energy of that belief with curiosity.
Why do I believe that? Does it serve me, in my soul, to continue to live by the rigors of that belief?
If, on the other hand, you feel strong judgements towards the idea of having lots of money; If the assumptions you make about people who appear to have more money than you grind at your mind, you must use the energetic message of that judgement as a catalyst to learning more about why they make the choices they do with money.
You must inquire into the aversion you feel toward what “the other” does, in order to find out what the aversion is trying to teach you.
In moving towards the feeling you don’t like, you gain valuable insights.
Perhaps you will find that “the other” saves a lot more money than they spend. Perhaps you will discover that they do not feel pulled towards superficial purchases as a way to soothe themselves.
Perhaps you will find that they have a deeper degree of understanding of their emotional triggers, and don’t allow themselves to be led by them. And that you would be served by investigating yours.
Perhaps you will learn that they use money as a tool towards the goal of feeling free to follow their soulfully led desires. And they understand the connection between their feeling free, and their ability to be of service to “others” – that it is important.
You may feel uncomfortable in studying your aversions to what “the other” is doing.
The discomfort is a means to unveil your aversions, which in their simplest form, are signs that you need to inquire into the strong feelings you are experiencing about said thing or person.
Aversions tell you that you have something to learn from the very thing you feel compelled to reject, deny, or judge.
In uncovering our aversions and studying them, we can begin to understand our conditioning, and discover how it is keeping us from the very thing we desire to feel: freedom.
Through aversions, we can learn about the ancestral beliefs that contribute to much suffering, both within ourselves and the world around us.
We can transmute collective pain through studying the things we feel compelled to reject.
When you feel a strong aversion to something or someone, it is lesson time.
Judgment is a form of aversion. You have a choice within and throughout that judgement: to learn to be with it and listen to it, to find out the secrets it has to tell about its origins. Or you have the choice to refuse its insights, continuing to deny what it desires to teach you.
It is not easy to end these loops of denial, as they are very easy to blame on others.
If an aversion lives within you, it is your time to experience it, in a way your ancestors could not.
Every time we enter a state of awareness about our aversions, we create an opening for change – a potential exit from the loops of thought and choices that cause suffering.
A focus and commitment on connecting with inner awareness – of what is happening – can provide the insights and courage required for an exit strategy to form and be acted upon.