Sometimes I think I have it all figured it out.
And then I very quickly realize I don’t.
When I first started shifting my life I was so relieved to find that I had options.
I could think a different way if the old way made me miserable? Heck yes! I thought.
I was so excited and inspired, and felt so accomplished that I had tapped into this new way of looking at the world.
And then I became know-it-all-y.
I wanted to be the expert ASAP, and for some reason I had convinced myself that I had it all figured out.
In truth, becoming an expert takes time, and commitment, and longevity.
You don’t just wake up one day and go, “I’ve done all the work and know everything there is to know.”
Especially when it comes to life, and all the intricately woven scenarios and situations that we dismiss ownership of by saying they fell into our laps.
Some days I feel like a newborn again. I stumble around feeling clueless, struggling with logic that, days before, was at the tip of my fingertips and tongue.
There are a lot of things I don’t know. And there are a lot of things I haven’t figured out yet.
The one thing I know about not knowing: the same scenario will reliably reappear until we do things differently.
And I’m realizing that the doing that needs doing isn’t external – it’s internal.
The only thing we have control over is ourselves. We are responsible for our own well-being.
And if the way we have been doing things isn’t working; if we are getting the same result; if we are suffering religiously;
Then we have to change something.
We have to set standards for how we treat ourselves. And stay true to those standards in the face of adversity.
And by adversity, I mean the people who don’t agree with them, and try to coerce us into doing things the way they’d like them done.
If we waiver, we can expect the same treatment, and the same undesirable events to unfold.
We want those around us to be happy with us. But in pleasing through self-sacrifice, our health suffers.
Which brings me to my eternally true, most prized piece of truth:
We do not have to sacrifice our emotional well-being for anyone.
When we are willing to stand behind that statement, great things happen. Trust the process.