Hey! I’m Andrea. An entrepreneur, writer, poet, self-compassion advocate & creative who is driven to understand what makes people tick, myself included.
Over the past 6 years I’ve drastically altered my life. I’ve transformed from a severely depressed, anxiety-laden, addiction-driven pessimist to a more light-hearted and self-actualized human being who values what she brings to the table.
It’s taken a lot of work. There’s nothing fun or easy about facing and deconstructing the beliefs that teach us to hate ourselves.
But damn, is it freeing.
I’ve learned a lot along the way and began sharing the lessons from my self-healing journey on this blog you’re visiting in 2015 (Thank you for being here, BTW 🖤)
I am a self-compassion advocate.
My motto (one of them anyway) is that our feelings are here to tell us what we need to know. Avoiding them is the path to self-destruction, and something I know a lot about.
Another to-the-core motto of mine = Being kind to yourself is the answer to all emotional woes.
Kindness is listening to your body and getting to know what it is trying to teach you. So is setting boundaries, understanding how energy affects you, and getting used to being with yourself, in the absence of trying to change who you are or how you feel.
I love to write.
I felt drawn to writing from a very young age. I spent a lot of time creating poetry and journaling in my room as a kid. Still do, just do it at a desk and without a curfew.
College helped me refine my skills.
I majored in technical communications (these days it’s often referred to as information design) and minored in computer science.
After college, I spent what felt like forever trying to be happy about the idea of updating oil rig component manuals while staring at a cubicle wall for 40 hours a week. Seriously: it doesn’t matter if you’re making amazing money if what you’re doing is draining your life force. Plus, having a boss was never a good fit for me which was tough to process because I learned a crappy belief early on that said I was inherently flawed because I felt trapped in a 9-5 work environment.
Eventually, I learned to challenge the ancestral conditioning that told me there was only one way to be successful.
Today, I celebrate my desire for freedom (that’s what’s on my vision board – not a million dollars) and the fact that I was born to be a creative entrepreneur, using my analytical mind, intuition and writing abilities to connect with and help others.
I am an introvert with extrovert tendencies.
I love connecting with people and performing (I’m also an actor) but I really love doing my own thing, too.
Actually, I NEED to do my own thing whenever I spend a lot of time in the company of others. It’s all about recalibrating my energy and creating inner balance. ♎︎
I trust my instincts.
I respect and follow my inner compass, even if it leads to awkward conversations. I’ve been known to completely cut off communication if I get a whiff of manipulation. That can seem dramatic to some but to me, it’s self-compassion. I do not enable toxic agendas and silence speaks volumes. Why am I telling you all of this? Maybe because I’ve got a fresh scenario percolating. Or maybe not. I’ll never tell…just kidding I’ll write a blog post about it. But seriously now (psst: I was still serious about that last bit) I get strong intuitive insights about people and situations which sometimes scream at me to head for the freakin hills, ie delete the email and move on. History has proven that if I deny these little bits of wisdom, I suffer. So yeah. Listens to the downloads for the sake of all.
I am vigilant about taking care of myself.
If I’m in good shape physically, mentally, and emotionally, I’m capable of showing up and helping others. So I keep close tabs on my thoughts, eat plant-based foods, and do what lights me up whenever possible.
I’m a “What do I need to do to be well in this situation?” kinda person.
Fun fact: some people don’t like that kind of person 😂 and you don’t always get a warm welcome when you command your requirements. But I’ve learned that I’m not here to please those kinds of folks. I’m here to initiate change. I was born to ruffle feathers that need to be ruffled. 😍😘✌️
I love nature, the beach and animals.
Life feels lighter when I’m walking on grass, breathing in ocean air or having conversations with my cat about the hardships of not being given unlimited access to his treats (His name is Jack and he is part cat, part parrot and I love him so much!) I also have a love affair with Maui. It’s the place I feel most at home in the world. 💗
I love to laugh.
Humour is 100% the direction I head when I’m nervous. It usually works out for me but there have been some epic failures that I refuse to get into right now because I feel really happy right now and want to keep riding that wave. 😂 Regardless, laughter is always high on my priority list. It contributes to the balance I crave, from heavy to light. But I would say I have a dark sense of humour at times. And slapstick comedy doesn’t elicit a reaction from me. The weirder the better, I say. The phrase, “it’s not weird enough” has a special meaning in my heart. And my house (my husband is a music producer and likes to get weird with his music, too.)
I’m old and young on the inside.
I feel both young and old at heart. Forever a kid who wants to play and express itself thanks to a volatile early life with wisdom that has been known to surprise more than just myself: that’s me. I’m tapping into the wisdom on a deeper level the more I heal myself and learning how to share it in productive ways (like here).
I am a student of life.
As long as we’re alive there will be opportunities to grow and create positive change in the world. I feel innately driven to investigate the opportunities that come my way, not just for me but for the betterment of society.
I never waiver from the calling within, telling me to keep educating and empowering myself and trying to help others. To keep moving forward and saying yes to life. What can I say? I’m a fear debunker. It’s in my code.